Standing up for Self

 

At that moment when she asked me to step down for someone else, my whole trust and faith just came crushing down. I have never thought even for a second that someone in that position will have the audacity to do such pitiful thing and that too from her, someone that I have looked upon, someone whom I thought of as my mentor, source of inspiration and above all whom I so blindly trusted.

I accepted as she desired but it broke me down…pushed me to the dungeon where I found no escape. I literally cried for about three months, hiding in the corner of the office, thinking what I have done so wrong to be treated like that.

Stepping down wasn’t the problem, I wouldn’t have cared that much but to have my trust and faith broken by the person I so admired and looked upon shook me to the core. Perhaps I may never learn to trust again or have any faith or expectation from just anyone. I felt sorry for myself for having worked so hard. I wished only if I had not dedicated and committed like that to my work. I felt ashamed to face myself.  And then I made the decision to leave ….

I told her what I must and what I felt. I knew things weren’t going to be that easy and I was ready to face the consequences. All throughout my career I served with full dedication and commitment. I love my work so much that even a dark spot on it I cannot tolerate. And I couldn’t just let my dedication, hard work, integrity and work ethic to be torn that way. I thought wherever I go I will serve with the same spirit but may be the time to serve in that place has definitely come to an end…. And so, I left…. heartbroken, spirit torn apart, motivation at zero level.

But I knew that God will always have a better plan for me for he has always appeared to help when I needed the most….

Comments

  1. Dawa KnightOctober 24, 2025 at 11:38 PM

    With age, we will learn to let go. After all, it isn't our designation or job or career, that can only define us. There's more to life than working.

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